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Challenging Experiences Need Not Be Negative

  • By Conscious Commerce
  • 26 Apr, 2016
By Daniel J. Benor, MD
This is an extension of the previous TWR article.
Who has not exclaimed, “Oh, my God!” or “Oy Vey!” when faced with unexpected and serious challenges? We may feel overwhelmed because the challenges are great or because we feel that our resources are too limited to meet them.
In either case, the OMG feeling in and of itself may cause or worsen our feelings of being overwhelmed. Within the TWR system, this is a meta-anxiety. It is when we are upset over being upset.
When in worry or in doubt,
Run in circles, scream and shout.
– Anonymous
Meta-anxieties like these may wind us up beyond our capacities to think clearly and to deal with stressful situations. They may lead us to make poor assessments of what is happening and poor decisions about what to do to resolve them.
Pausing briefly to do the TWR tapping and reciting an affirmation to focus our mind on the meta-anxiety can rapidly reduce our stress and anxiety levels. If you have practiced TWR, you may well be able to just tap to calm yourself. Meta-anxieties often respond to TWR much more quickly than primary anxieties.
The negativity we initially perceive when we are in challenging situations often dissipates as we work on our stress levels. We may then find that what had appeared to be negative was actually an invitation to grow and deepen our awareness, stress management skills, patience, trust in ourselves, and trust in the wisdom of our inner guidance that leads us into such challenging lessons.
With time and practice, we may even develop and strengthen our meta-positive awarenesses and beliefs. Challenges may cease to stimulate OMG responses.  Instead, we may react to challenges with the confidence that we can deal with whatever difficulties we face and come out better on the other side. The OMG may be replaced with “I wonder what lessons this situation is going to bring me?”
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